Thursday, March 27, 2008

Help Me Pass the Time in Limbo

So it's just a waiting game now for DH and I. So I'm wondering how I can pass the time and keep my blog active. Feel free to help me if you like. Why don't you post questions/topics/comments for me to blog about. Maybe no one's reading this....who knows. But if you are and you have something you'd like to share or ask...feel free!!! 

6 comments:

Lisa said...

I stumbled upon your blog, from your facebook account. I tried to be an egg donor for someone who had gone through all of your issues, and unfortunately it was unsuccessful. The impact that is has on your body and family is unbelievable for anyone who has not experienced this it is a hard concept to grasp. I hope for you guys that this works. I am enjoying your blog, so please continue.... what stage are you in exactly.
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I did not tell you who I donated fora reason as it was and still is very personal for them. I know that you understand that

infertiledeva said...

Hi lisa!
Thanks for your comment. Yes, it can be a very personal issue with many couples and I can totally respect and understand that. I have chosen to share my story simply because I am someone who needs to talk about things in order to work through them. We did spend the first couple of years trying to keep our TTC a secret but as the years passed it got harder and harder.
We are currently waiting to be offered treatment for IVF. We've had our consultation with the Regional Fertility Clinic in Calgary and are now just waiting for our name to get to the top of the list and be offered treatment. It could happen any time within the next 2 to 4 months. :-)
Given that our IF is due to my low ovarian reserve, we have had to discuss possible egg donation. We are hoping it won't have to come to that but we'll see. What an amazingly generous and selfless thing to have donated an egg. wow!
I will definitely continue to write and please feel free to comment more! :-)

Lisa said...

Well, I was a good candidate for egg donation, I went through all the testing I had a great reserve, even though I was almost 40. The signs were all good, until I went through the procedure and found that my ovaries were not responding the way they thought. Who would of known. The Drs. in Calgary said that your reserve changes all the time. " It was a bad month for me I guess". We decided that it was a one shot deal, because there are no guarantees and it is such an emotional roller coaster for all involved. I'm thinking of you....

infertiledeva said...

I'm assuming you knew the couple you were donating to. That's so incredible. My husband and I have gone over this a couple of times and aren't sure we would want to know the donor. I don't know how I would feel about it. Gah...I hope it doesn't come to that. You can't buy eggs in Canada they must be donated but I'm not sure there is an anonymous option when it comes to egg donation.
Thank you for saying that our reserve can change from month to month. No one has told me that and it gives me more hope that when it's our month I will do fine.

Lisa said...

Do you know who I am... just wondering, I am not trying to be secret or anything, but I am assuming you know who I am, as I have know you DH for well, lets just say a looong time. I have only met you once and that was years ago.
ANyway my point was, if I had one is that my donor was and is very close to me, and it was not a hard decision. I did though have to discuss it with my family, (DH and 2 kids 12/8). In saying that if would have produced enough eggs, I think that I would of left them there, if the couple did not want anymore. I may not of said that in the beginning, but I now realize how many people want a family and I like others take it for granted. I do think there is anonymous donors FYI only... it is very exciting

infertiledeva said...

I was pretty sure I knew who you were and you just confirmed it. :-)
It's funny how you change your mind about things once you're right there in the moment. 3 years ago Jas and I were totally against fertility drugs and now look at us! Desperate times calls for desperate measures I guess. Jas wants a whole litter of kids so I'm hoping when our time comes we will make enough to have some to freeze and go back to. He'll make a good Dad. Although I will have to keep a close eye on the little monkeys otherwise they may be on top of the extendicare building or doing flips off of deck railings. ha ha!